Three Words will Crush Your Fear of Public Speaking

Public Speaking FearI no longer experience fear of public speaking.

Sure, I’ll get some butterflies at times. A little nervousness may creep in if I am doing a large event.

However, I don’t mind a few negative feelings. A couple tactics from Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™ will neutralize them.

Speaking fear, terror, extreme nervousness are as rare to me as a Super Bowl appearance by the Kansas City Chiefs. (I am a big fan, but am being realistic here.)

Has not always been the case.

Terror gripped me the first few times I spoke. If I had not been “strongly encouraged” (forced) to give those first speeches, I might still be in the shackles of public speaking fear.

How did I go from terrified to empowered?

I learned a three word phrase.

I use it daily to help me break outside my comfort zone and conquer fears in other areas of my life.

“Just do it.”

Ignore the fear. Just do it.

Fearful of trying something new? Just do it.

Scared you’ll mess up on stage? Just do it.

Comfort zone keeping you corralled? Just do it.

When you have this bold, just do it attitude, expect three benefits:

1. You’ll expand your comfort zone and you’ll feel comfortable doing new things.

2. Your fear will dissipate and no longer be an obstacle.

3. You’ll make others jealous because they see you accomplishing things which they wish they had the courage to do.

Ignore the fear and “Just do It.” (Unless it’s something stupid.)

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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Airport TSA, Persuastion Tactics, and Speech Writing Block

Ever get stuck in preparing a speech? Here is a speech writing technique that annihilates speech writer’s block.

It’s a technique which creates a memorable section of your speech which audiences love and remember.

Here is the speech writing technique:

Tell a personal story and then share two or three lessons or tips.

Read this real world speech example of how I used the technique:

Recently our family went on vacation. We were anticipating the fun and relaxation, but dreading the airport security.

We approached security lugging five carryons, a laptop computer, a stroller, an active 18 month old, and two bottles of apple juice over the three ounce limit.

After clearing the initial identification checkpoint, you know what happened next. The security-check dance began.

Belts are removed. Wallets and shoes tossed into tubs. All the while seeking to keep an 18 month old corralled.

My wife and I make it through the scanner, start collecting our personal belongings and keep an eye out for anyone accidentally grabbing one of our bags.

A tall dark haired TSA agent approached.

In one hand he held our daughter’s pink diaper bag and in the other hand he held two bottles of apple juice. Clearly more than three ounces.

Busted.

The TSA website claimed that having a toddler allowed us a green pass on the juice.

Mr. TSA looked at me and said, “Sir, you can either open the apple juice and let us test them for explosives or we can pat you down and search all your bags.”

I paused.

Glanced at our overstuffed bags, the blue gloves, and made the no brainer choice.

“You can test them!”

Surprise, surprise. The apple juice was found non-explosive.

This experience illustrated three tips in getting people to do what we ask.

1. Be polite and treat people with respect.

We like to be treated with respect. Politeness makes us more willing to follow the other person’s wishes.

Combining a respectful attitude with please, thank-you, Sir, Ma’am, and other polite words increase our persuasive powers.

2. Give people a choice

Mr. TSA did not order me to open the apple juice. He gave me two choices. I may have internally bulked at the thought of opening the sealed Juice, but suddenly it seemed like a great choice when compared with a pat down and search.

A friend of mine used to work as a babysitter. She said she would give the kids choices instead of orders.

“Would you like to read this book or that book?”

“Would you like to go to bed now or stay up and wash the dishes with me?”

This is a powerful persuasive technique for adults and children.

3. Make requests instead of orders.

Earlier a TSA agent said, “Could you take your daughter out of the stroller?”

Sounds better than, “Take your daughter out of the stroller!”

Requests can still have the same authority as orders, but are much more palatable to us.

Turn your orders into requests.

“Could you pick up this report?”

“Would you have time to…”

I’ll never forget that experience nor the persuasion tips it illustrated.

Do you see how this technique will keep the audience’s attention?

When you get stuck in speech preparation or want to spruce up your speech, choose a personal story and then share several lessons from it.

Your audience will love it.

 

 

 

 

 

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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“If you want to captivate the audience and keep them on the edge of their seats, you must have dynamic delivery skills.”

Have you heard this statement? Is it really true? In the past three weeks, I saw two speakers keep the audience on the edge of their seats despite poor delivery skills. Why? I wondered the same thing until the answer flashed into my mind a few days later.

The first speaker we’ll call Mr. Monotone. His voice was as flat as the roads of Kansas. He did move some and had OK eye contact, but his voice was stuck in one pitch. Normally his delivery skills would have put the audience to sleep, but all 300 people hung on his every word. Why? Keep reading.

The second speaker was at a different event with a room full of 90+ people. Let’s call him Mr. No Eye-Contact. I don’t want to be disrespectful, but I have never seen someone make such poor eye contact. He never once looked at his notes, because he did not have any!

Where did he look? The inside of his eyelids. His eyes were closed at least 90% of the time. I am not exaggerating!

But again, the audience was with him every sentence of the way. Why did these two speakers with poor deliver skills have such a tremendous connection with the audience?

Simple.

If a hungry audience is fed by a top chef, they listen intently.

This is the winning formula. Vocal variety, stage presence, and eye contact are all helpful. However, as I witnessed,  they are not critically important when the speaker is feeding a hungry crowd

Mr Monotone had made millions on the internet and was addressing a roomful of internet marketers wanting to increase their income.

  • Audience hungry for info on how to make money.
  • Expert and credible speaker showing them how.

Mr. No Eye-Contact was a top expert in the health/nutrition field. The audience was made up of individuals hungry for information to improve their health. Again, a winning formula.

Because both speakers were top chefs or experts in their topics, this increased the hunger of the audience and they felt more satisfied.

Hungry Audience + Credible and Expert Speaker delivering satisfying content = Audience on the edge of their seats.

Both speakers are highly paid and popular, not because of their delivery skills, but because they are feeding hungry audiences.

How can we apply this:

  • Choose topics your audience is hungry for.
  • Speak in the areas you have expertise in.
  • Let it slip out that you are a top chef in your topic area. Put it in your introduction. Slip in a few self-praises in a humble way.

Delivery skills are very important, but you can hold attention if you find a hungry audience and feed them well.

(C) Arlen Busenitz. All Rights Reserved. www.SpeakingInfo.com

 

 

 

 

 

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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15 minutes till showtime. Most of the 35 business professionals were shuffling their notes, glancing at their cell phones, or looking ahead in bored silence. Though I was not expected to speak till the top of the hour, I dived into the crowd and started mingling. Starting with a person on the front row, I engaged in mini conversations with different individuals.

Using techniques from my book Conversation Magic, I connected with about 8 different people. In part 2, we’ll look at how I do this. In this article we’ll look at 5 reasons why I mingle with the audience.

Reason #1: Mingling Increases my Connection with the Audience

My friend took a young lady out for coffee. Was it a fun evening? Nope. The conversation dragged and it felt like a piano and a guitar playing different music. There was no connection. He cut the evening short and took her to a movie so he would not have to talk to her!

An audience who feels connected with the speaker listens attentively and the room is filled with energy. If there is weak or little connection, both the speaker and audience may wish they were at the movies!

By mingling with the audience, they will see you as a normal person and it will be easier to connect on stage. Leave a great impression before and it will make it much easier to leave a great impression from the stage.

Reason #2: Mingling Increases my Comfort Level and Reduces Anxiety

I rarely experience public speaking fear due to using the principles in Speak with Confidence. However, mingling puts me even more at ease.

A quick way to reduce public speaking fear is to spend time greeting the audience. I coach clients to stand at the door or go around greeting people. They report back how much it helps reduce anxiety and boost confidence.

Reason #3: Mingling Increases my Likeability

A year ago, I spent 10 minutes mingling with a crowd before a training workshop. Later I glanced at the reviews and several individuals mentioned, “He’s a likeable guy.”

If people like you as a person, they are much more apt to enjoy your message and ask you back. Spending time interacting before your speech will greatly increase your likeability.

Reason #4:Mingling Increases my Ability to use Customized Humor and Content.

Audiences love a customized presentation. One of my friends gets paid $5,000 a speech. He’ll mingle with the audience before the event or even the day prior so he can pick up info on what’s going on. If someone mentions the hotel rooms are small, he’ll work that aspect into the speech.

It’s like toppings on ice-cream. A small amount greatly enhances the experience of the audience.

Reason #5:Mingling Allows Me to use People’s Names in the Presentation

Use a person’s name in a positive way and they will enjoy the attention and everyone else will immediately pay attention. Work in people’s names. If they ask a question, refer back to them by name. Your status will quickly raise as a speaker.

Mingling is a powerful public speaking tip. It can be the difference between a good speaking experience and a great speaking experience.

All these reasons benefit me. However, they also benefit the audience even more so they get more out of my presentation.

Watch for part 2 on how to mingle with the audience.

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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$2,000 Speaker Training for Free

Do you want to get paid to speak? This income can come in the form of payments for speaking, back of the room sales, or subtle promotion of your non speaking business.

My friend went to speaking boot camp on getting paid to give presentations. In other words, how to become a professional speaker. There he learned three steps on how to get paid to speak. With travel, registration, and lost work time it cost him more than I paid for my first car.

Virtually every book and product I have read on the subject, mentions the same three steps.

You don’t have to pay $2,000. Here are these paid speaking tips for free:

Step #1: Write a good speech and practice it well.

If you don’t deliver a good speech, you will not be asked back. For more info on this, check out Become a Better Speaker in One Evening

Step #2: Call up your local service clubs and tell them you will speak for free (Lions, Kiawans, etc)

Mention your credentials and how they will gain value from your speech.

Step #3: Keep giving these free presentations as you hone and tweak your speech.

Eventually, you’ll start to receive referrals and people will give you paid speaking engagements.

Is there more to this? Yes, but every course or book I have seen the subject, says to follow these steps.

 

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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Be Twice as Good in One Month

When I was 18, I learned the Rule of 72. It is mainly applied when making investing decisions, but it has broad implications for speakers and general self improvement.

The Rule of 72 states:

Divide 72 by your interest rate and that will tell you how many years it takes for your money to double.

72 / 6% = Your money will double every 12 years

I know this is a speaking blog, but hang with me.

If you and I improve in an area of our life by just 2.5% a day, we will be twice as good in 29 days. (72 / 2.5% = 29)

Today, could you:

  • Be 2.5% more positive?
  • Be 2.5% more efficient?
  • Be 2.5% more loving?
  • Be 2.5% more disciplined?
  • Watch 2.5% less TV?
  • Spend 2.5% more time with your family?

Sure you can. Grow by 2.5% every day and in 29 days you will have improved by 100%

Same applies to public speaking.

With every speech if we are just:

  • 5% better with our vocal variety
  • 5% better with our pauses
  • 5% better with making eye contact
  • etc…

Then after 15 speaking engagements we will be twice as good as we are now. We will have improved our public speaking skills by 100%

Have some fun with the rule of 72.

Small changes done consistently over time create massive results. Learn more about this concept in  The Compound Effect (aff Link)

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

Just finishing up the final touches my latest program called “Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™”. It includes a professionally filmed DVD, two audio CDS, and PDF special reports. Release date in just a few days.

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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This was the only question on our final test for one of my public speaking classes I took in college.

The answer: Enthusiasm

Enthusiasm is like syrup on pancakes. It brings out the taste and makes the content go down better. Great speakers have good enthusiasm. Do you?

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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Give a Fresh Coat of Paint to Your Speaking Skills

“Arlen, one of the cheapest and best ways to spruce up a room is to give it a fresh coat of paint.”  I have taken this advice to heart many times.

In literally hours an old, dull depressing room will look alive and even feel homey with one coat of paint.

Can a person transform their public speaking skills this fast? Yes! I would argue that in just 90 seconds you can significantly upgrade your public speaking skills. Does it take longer to hone the craft and skill of public speaking? Yes. However, here are 3 ways to liven up your presentations right now.

Speaking Tip #1: Smile

Too many speaker speak with either no expression, a frown,  or a bored look on their face. Forcing yourself to smile will do three things:

1. Make your voice sound warm and friendly.

2. Make you more likeable. A likable speaker connects with the audience.

3. Make you feel more comfortable and at ease. I read about a study which showed that just smiling will put you in a good mood.

Try it and see the difference. It will brighten your presentation.

Speaking Tip #2: Plant your feet & lean forward slightly

Two mistakes speakers often make are shifting/moving too much and leaning back on their heals. Shifting distracts the audience and leaning back takes energy out of the presentation.

I train people to lean forward slightly so their weight is on the front of their feet. The heals are still on the floor, but the weight has been shifted forward. It is surprising how much energy this will give to your presentation. Videos of speakers before and after leaning forward show a remarkable difference.

Speaking tip #3: Act enthused/interested in your presentation

A speech without enthusiasm or passion is like a limp puppet without a human arm to move it. By acting enthusiastic and being interested in what you are saying, you will bring new energy into your speech. Plus, enthusiasm is contagious. It will spread to the audience and they will be more interested in your presentation.

Give your presentation skills a fresh coat of paint by applying these tips.

(C) Arlen Busenitz – Speakinginfo.com

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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Write your Book in 90 Days

I just published a blog post over at Speakerblogger on how to write a book in 90 days.

Check it out and let me know what you think.

Arlen

Arlen Busenitz

Arlen Busenitz is an experienced speaker with over 650 presentations. He is Author of several books, CD's,and creator of Become a Better Speaker in One Evening™

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